• This book can be read straight through, or you can skip around as you please. We recommend asking questions in the Christian Walk; Theological Beliefs; Dating, Courtship, and Engagement; and Marriage sections earlier in your relationship rather than later.

• The full text of all the verses referenced in this book are contained in an appendix in the back.

• Some of the questions may use terms with which you are not familiar. For example, in the section on Theological Beliefs, terms such as sanctification, predestination, amillennialism, etc. are used. These words are defined as much as possible, but since different people often define these words differently, we sometimes simply ask how you would define that word. If you are not familiar with a term, “I don't know what that means” is a perfectly acceptable answer. These questions are not designed to make anyone feel stupid or ignorant, and we ask that you use these questions in a manner that will build each other up.

• These questions are written with the purpose of aiding you in getting to know each other. Some of the questions can get very personal and you may want to wait to see if the relationship develops before asking (or answering!) those questions. “I am not comfortable talking about that right now” should be a perfectly acceptable answer.

• These questions are also written to help you open up to each other. It may feel awkward or uncomfortable to share your answers at first, but it is definitely worth it to work past the awkward feelings in order to get to know each other better. Remember—the other person may be feeling slightly awkward or vulnerable as well. As you share with each other, it will strengthen the bond the two of you have (trust us—we’ve been through this too!).

• Some of these questions, especially the ones about your past, may open old wounds. If you come across such a question, we encourage you to take the matter before God and ask Him to help you in this area of your life. If you have been abused, if you have struggled with sin, if you have been sinned against, remember that there is healing in Jesus. “[B]y His stripes we are healed” (Isaiah 53:5, NKJV), and “Behold, [He] make[s] all things new” (Revelation 21:5, KJV). We pray that these questions will be an aid to any healing that you may need.

    We hope that you will profit from this book, and we hope the questions in the pages within will help you relate to and learn more about the special people in your lives.

—James and Laura Christian

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